A pandemic is the perfect opportunity for introverts–extroverts we’re always looking for new members!–to crawl into a little cocoon of perceived safety, away from the noise. There are countless moments in our life when it’s a bit easier to skirt away than to show up: asking for the salary you know you need–and deserve–or applying for a new job because, well, it’s the New Year in a job market like no other shouldn’t we all be out there taking advantage of that? Showing up is also knowing when the right thing to do is stay put.
We all have moments when we’re stuck and afraid to either put ourselves out there and go for it or stay where we are. Sometimes showing up doesn’t mean making a big break. Sometimes showing up can be as simple as trusting yourself and figuring out what you need. Writing down your findings and having some good reading material to back you up are some solid places to start.
Ask Yourself, First
Asking doesn’t always mean asking someone else–often, it’s asking ourselves for permission. Yes, you have permission to start looking for a new job. Yes, you have permission to stop thinking you need a new job because everyone else seems to be happily posting and sharing that they just landed a great new job. Give yourself permission to acknowledge to yourself that you deserve a raise, a better rate, a better benefits package, or simply the grace to accept being content in your current role.
Giving yourself permission first is just as important as figuring out what to do next. Asking for what you want when it’s rooted in what you need can make it a lot easier.
Write the Path
Write down what you find out when you sit with yourself and give yourself permission to want what you want. Write it down. Maybe you find out that yes, you deserve a pay increase. Yes, you accomplished so many goals this year that you really deserve that promised bonus. Be specific, write it down. You can also create a Google Sheet to help you track your progress or keep track of important budget-related goals.
Documenting your needs helps create the path to move forward. Writing down our wishes and thoughts helps us define all of the details that help either bring our wish to life or help us carve a timeline for when we may need to make a change.
Read the Books
Reading a physical book can help focus your energy and minimize distraction. Here are 4 solid recommendations depending on what situation you find yourself in–either going for that promotion or staying put.
Designing Your Life by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans
Real-life stories and proven techniques such as mind-mapping, reframing, and prototyping may be relatable as you learn how to build your way forward into a life of your own making.
Finding Your Own North Star by Martha Beck
Often folks find a new job only to find themselves in a similar situation to which they left. Finding your Own North Star helps you identify the scenarios that caused you equal joy and discomfort to help you more easily identify the patterns you want to attract, or avoid in your next job.
The Making of a Manager by Julie Zhuo
People aren’t born managers and unfortunately the path to growth and more money at some companies is the management track. Zhuo provides great insight into successfully navigating being a first-time manager.
The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks
Things may seem so perfect in your life that you fear making a change could mess everything up. Hendricks’ book explains how to break free of this thought paralysis revealing how to push past self-imposed limitations and live in a higher, purer state.