Resolution : You’re Not Alone

Even if your situation feels incredibly uncertain, trust that this is a transition.

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2:41 AM is a lonely place. Once again, I’m restless and staring at the abyss of insomnia. There’s no reason for this habitual waking. My kids are sleeping. The hum of the house, humming. All is peaceful, content, except within me. 

There’s a brave uneasiness around us. I hear it in the voices of job seekers who courageously face the silent daily grind of endless applications wondering if anyone is listening. I hear it in the voices of people facing financial uncertainty who really truly hope someone pays attention to their applications, and quickly.  I hear it in the questions from folks stuck in a job that isn’t ideal but pays the mortgage. I feel it in the leaps from the victors who leave a toxic job situation without a safety net trusting the deep, personal knowledge that nothing is better than what they’ve got. Now what? 

Trust

The pandemic has us held captive in a temporary state of permanent confusion and uncertainty. We have limited control. For those in a search, it’s not just a job search but it’s a job search during a pandemic. In the deep winter night of our journey, we need to remember to trust that we’re all, collectively, in a transition and you have the talents, tools, and abilities to take this next step. The word “transition,” by definition is both a noun and a verb eliciting movement; a temporary detour towards what’s next in our path. To help you remember to trust in your journey, open a journal, a Google doc, or a note on your phone to list breadcrumbs to help guide your path: 

  • What you can’t control. 
  • A job you left, why you left, and where you want to go. 
  • Three truths as to your value, outside of a job search.

Taking a few moments to remember what you have accomplished and the unique attributes of Who You Are can help calm some restlessness…and empower you to face the journey. Writing the physical words helps build up your armor and confidence. Remind yourself that you have the skills and abilities to see yourself along this path. Trust that your situation is fluid and maintain faith in your journey. Right now, I’m putting some trust in the fact that I will sleep again, someday. 

I’m always here to help guide, listen, and at the very least (or most important), be a source to confirm that no, you’re not alone. 

Stopgap: Should you take the interim solution?

Find yourself at a point in your search at having to accept a stopgap job? Here’s how to find empowerment in your decision to do what’s best for you.

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Many job seekers are stuck in a crappy situation right now. Unemployment benefits are running out, the job market is still unstable, and Instagram feeds are full of #stufftobuynow while funds are, well, maybe not quite the same as they were in December, 2019. 

During a search you may find yourself at a crossroads of accepting a “stopgap opportunity.” Maybe it’s hustling at a Starbucks or managing a showroom while your true desire is designing the furniture, not greeting those who browse it. Deciding to take the interim job in order to pay your bills to see you through this perilous time can certainly feel helpless, like you’re giving in without much of a choice. Being kind to yourself while taking control of the decision to choose the interlude along your path is important for your mental and physical well-being. Here’s how you can navigate this decision from a position of power despite a situation which can typically make someone feel helpless.

Empower your Decision  

Create a Google doc or simply open up your notebook and create three columns:

  • Professional Development
  • Personal Development
  • Stopgap Benefits

During your conversations and journey exploring this transitional opportunity, fill each column with your thoughts:

Professional: Does the opportunity allow you to learn new software? What about connections–you will have the chance to make new connections along your hustle? 

Personal: Crawling the walls doesn’t always help you structure your day. When the hours blur together, this stopgap job can help carve out specific times and days of focused activity to devote to resuming your search. Does this opportunity provide you with a way to schedule in search time? 

Stopgap: What type of relief will this solution provide? This can be a real no-brainer and perhaps the most immediate need for taking on this opportunity. Mortgage, the holidays, car payments…these obligations must be met and sometimes a stopgap is the perfect solution.

You Get to Chose

Referring to these buckets during your decision making process will help you feel in control. You’re CHOOSING this step because one, two, or maybe even all three buckets contain rational thoughts, findings, and discoveries to make a sound decision. Feeling like you’re making a choice versus being forced into something automatically swings the pendulum back to you; oftentimes unplanned career pivots emote feelings of helplessness. Making the list empowers you to make your decision based out of fact and reasoning, not helplessness.  

Want some help to get going? Grab a free, 15-Min call during the month of December to jump start your New Year decision making. I’d love to help–and am always happy to be a second set of ears. You’ve got the ability to stand strong in your decision…and do what’s best for YOU.